"Sweet Nothings He Needs to Hear ...[and Men Agree]"
By Brie Schwartz, REDBOOK
In a relationship, it's not only women who like to hear that they look nice, or that they're wanted. Whether it's a simple compliment to kick off his day or something deeper, these affirmations will strengthen your bond.
"You look handsome"
It may sound obvious, but men enjoy a good ego-stroking, especially when they're not trying to impress.
It's easy to overlook the small gestures,... tell him how much you appreciate his efforts and, above all, be specific about what he did and how it made you feel.
"I trust you"
"I'm on your side"
"Find a way to let your partner know, on a daily basis, that you're in his corner," "You might show your loyalty by standing up for your guy when he feels the world is against him. Let him know you support what he's passionate about. Show him that you value what he values. This adds a sense of teamwork, security, and intimacy to your relationship."
Men communicate differently than women, tending toward reticence when they're upset. When this happens, don't badger him, but do let him know that you're there for him, and when he does begin to talk through his issues, don't interrupt him or offer any unsolicited opinions. Let him feel safe and unjudged.
"Let's get frisky!"
[Hahahaaaa... sa’olele le fekalaiga ma le saugoaga!]
When an irrational fight arises out of a silly situation, the best thing to do is to apologize before it escalates into something bigger, and a lot meaner. He's not always the enemy. Sometimes hormones, or even lack of calories are the culprits.
"You look buff"
He's finally started to make good on his New Year's resolution to hit the gym - six months later, but who's counting? - and has traded in his morning bagel for a protein shake. He may not look like an Adonis yet, but a little encouragement will make him continue to try. A bicep squeeze followed by, "you feel so strong," will fortify him in the beginning when he's most tempted to give up. Remember, he's partially bettering himself for you, so supporting him is key. Joining him on his health-kick is also a great way to show you care.
"You make me better"
He loves you and will do anything for you, so when you find yourself trapped in a routine and feeling somewhat spark-less, the biggest compliment you can give him is a reminder that he's improved your life. "We men will do anything humanly possible to impress you. You're the driving force behind why we wake up every day. We drive fancy cars because of women. We dress nice, put on cologne, get haircuts and try to look all shiny and new for you. We do all of this because the more our game is stepped up, the more of you we get."
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Well, well, nothing’s as sweet as sweet nothings! ....and in response, I whisper to her thusly:
O, speak again, bright angel! for thou art
As glorious . . . as is a winged messenger of heaven
Shall I hear more, or shall I speak at this?
I take thee at thy word:
Call me but love.”
[Cue Poula Chorus]
Ua faafetai, ua faafetai [ua faamalo le fetalai], ua tasi lava oe, ua tasi lava oe, i lo’u nei faamoemoe!!! ... LOL!